Being tired is not an excuse

I’m just over a month away from my due date with Baby #3.
I have a 3-year-old boy.
I also have a not-quite-2-year-old girl.
I stay at home 24/7 with them.
I blog, crochet, read, participate in church activities and ministry, am always with family (I have three siblings), and have to walk up a flight of stairs every time I go to the bathroom during the day.
I’m a lot of things. Bored is not one of them. Tired is always one of them.

Can you relate? I’m pretty sure every parent out there can! Even if our situations are different, it seems like being a parent and being tired just go hand-in-hand!

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Being tired makes things harder for sure!

Harder for me to make decisions.
Harder for my children to obey me.
Harder for my body to keep up with my children, and take care of me and my unborn child.
But, all these things need to happen!

Being tired is not an excuse.

As believers too, we have an added calling to not let tiredness be an excuse for our attitude, behavior, or lack there of.
Why is this? Because we are called to be like Jesus.
Jesus knows what it is to be tired, to be down right exhausted. He was fully human! He knew hunger, He knew heartache, He knew exhaustion (He slept through a storm while on a boat in the middle of it! That’s exhaustion!). In these times of human weakness, even Jesus did not rely in His own strength, but on the strength supplied to Him by God the Father, through the ministry of the Spirit.

As Christ-followers, fellow heirs, children of God, we are called to live like Jesus Christ. “But as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct” (1 Peter 1:15). Yes, even when we are tired.

Again, in our weakness of being tired, we are called to be like Jesus. What did Jesus do when He was physically, mentally, emotionally drained? He relied not on His own strength, but on the strength of the Father.
Jesus knew this reality, that His strength came from the Father. “The¬†LORD¬†is¬†my¬†strength¬†and¬†my¬†shield;¬†in¬†him¬†my¬†heart¬†trusts,¬†and¬†I¬†am¬†helped;¬†my heart exults,¬†and¬†with¬†my¬†song¬†I¬†give¬†thanks¬†to¬†him.” (Psalm 28:7)
Jesus even preached on this in Matthew 6¬†when He said, “But¬†if¬†God¬†so¬†clothes¬†the¬†grass¬†of¬†the¬†field,¬†which¬†today¬†is¬†alive and¬†tomorrow¬†is¬†thrown¬†into¬†the¬†oven,¬†will¬†he¬†not¬†much¬†more¬†clothe¬†you,¬†O¬†you¬†of¬†little faith?¬†Therefore¬†do¬†not¬†be¬†anxious,¬†saying,¬†‚ÄėWhat¬†shall¬†we¬†eat?‚Äô¬†or¬†‚ÄėWhat¬†shall¬†we¬†drink?‚Äôor¬†‚ÄėWhat¬†shall¬†we¬†wear?‚Äô¬†For¬†the¬†Gentiles¬†seek¬†after¬†all¬†these¬†things,¬†and¬†your heavenly¬†Father¬†knows¬†that¬†you¬†need¬†them¬†all.¬†But¬†seek¬†first¬†the¬†kingdom¬†of¬†God¬†and his¬†righteousness,¬†and¬†all¬†these¬†things¬†will¬†be¬†added¬†to¬†you.” (v. 30-33, emphasis added)

This applies to parenting too

When you are tired, pray for strength from the Lord to faithfully parent your child. Even though you are tired, you still need to obey your Father, and faithfully parent your child. Point them to Christ, to your strength when you are weak, to the only one who can help them obey.
“For¬†the¬†sake¬†of¬†Christ,¬†then,¬†I¬†am¬†content¬†with weaknesses,¬†insults,¬†hardships,¬†persecutions,¬†and¬†calamities.¬†For¬†when¬†I¬†am¬†weak,¬†then I¬†am¬†strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:10)

When your child is tired, show them your own example (see above), and the example of Jesus. Even though they are tired, they still need to obey. God says so. “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right”. (Ephesians 6:1, emphasis added)


“but¬†they¬†who¬†wait¬†for¬†the¬†LORD¬†shall¬†renew¬†their¬†strength;
they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
they¬†shall¬†walk¬†and¬†not¬†faint.”
(Isaiah 40:31)

Give God glory for understanding your weakness, for providing for you when you are weak, and for giving you strength in the midst of your weakness.
Soli Deo Gloria

Being a boy and being gentle

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This is my husband and his mini-me, our son.

They are the same in a lot of ways! Personality, activity level, tastes, how they relate to others, but it is in their physical appearance that they are the most obviously similar. They are both built big, my big boy and my big man ‚̧
Our son often gets mistaken for being older than he is. For example, he just turned three and he is the height and weight of the average 5 year old boy. It can be hard for him, because adults expect more of him than he is able.
I love being a boy mom. I love playing cars, building towers, throwing balls, splashing in the pool, running constantly, playing chase/tag, jumping off stuff, all that active “boy stuff”.

When our daughter was born, we were keen on teaching him a very important word: Gentle.

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This was the first time he tried to play with her, she was one month old.

We learned something important in teaching our son to be gentle. That is: he is still a boy. He can be gentle, but not in the same way a little girl is going to be gentle. It’s not necessarily going to come naturally for him. Being gentle seems like no fun, like he’s in trouble for just playing, like we don’t like the way he plays.
We’ve also learned something about his personality: he is extremely caring for others. He wants everyone to be happy and playing together. He does not like it if someone is crying or upset, he really can’t go back to playing until the other person’s issue is resolved.
He’s a tenderhearted bull in a china shop!

My husband has been a great example to him of how to be gentle. Our son loves to imitate the “big people” in his life. Grandparents, uncles, teachers, and especially Daddy. He has some great role models in his life. All these men are considerate of others, prefer the needs of others before themselves. They are great at helping our son be gentle, and still run around and play.

These are not even all the men speaking and acting in honorable ways in front of my son. It’s a wonderful blessing!

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These are not even all the men speaking and acting in honorable ways in front of my son. It’s a wonderful blessing!

In parenting, I always like to have a solid “why” for everything I tell my kids to do (or not do). God always gives us reasons for obeying Him, so it only makes sense that I do the same for my kids. So, why be gentle? Because it’s not about you, my son. Gentle is considering other people, before himself. Gentle is looking around, and seeing that there are others around him, affected by what he does. Gentle is seeing his sister crying and bringing her favorite baby doll to cheer her up.

In November, we are expecting our third baby, another girl. I’m very excited!
I’m not as nervous this time about my son being gentle with his new baby sister. He’s still a boy, and will want her to play cars with him instead of dolls. He’s already taught one sister how to kick and throw, and with his personality, making sure everyone is included is a huge thing. He joins with his sister now in playing with her baby dolls, so that he is included in what she is doing.

I love my son, and I’m excited to see him grow up with his little sisters following right behind him. God has big plans for this kid, I know it. ‚̧

 

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“O LORD, you are my God;
I will exalt you; I will praise your name,
for you have done wonderful things,
plans formed of old, faithful and sure.”
Isaiah 25:1

“But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.”
1 Timothy 6:11

 

Soli Deo Gloria!